Small Talk Leads to Great Relationships

My family is very busy, running from sports to music lessons, doing homework, dinner, then bed.  Some nights the only time we have together is dinner.  Even on those nights we are still rushing through our meal just to get to another activity.   This may be the only time that I can sit and talk to my husband and kids about their day.

Small Talk

Asking a couple of questions at dinner can help make the conversation flow.  Parents tend to ask, “How was your day?”,  but many times kids don’t know how to answer or will just be silly.  They might say, “Fine.” or “Good.”.  We ask 2 simple questions at our house to get the conversation going.  

What was the BEST part of your day?

What was the WORST part of the day?

This usually gets the kids talking. They love telling us about the best, which could be they got to pick something out of the treasure box at school or they won the dodge ball game in gym. The worst could be that they fell on the playground and sometimes, the worst part of their day is eating my dinner (usually on a meal they don’t like).

Most the time they won’t answer with one word.  They love to share and explain why it was the best or worst part.   If they don’t elaborate, you have some information now and can ask questions.    I was really surprised when my other kids were asking questions too.  They love what Mom and Dad have to say about their day.  This is a really simple and fun way to start a conversation at the dinner table and get the whole family involved.  And maybe discover something about your children that maybe you didn’t know.  

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12 Responses

  1. Becky says:

    Great tips on conversation with kids and this will also work well with teenagers as sometimes, they like to keep things quiet too. I love your blog!

  2. Great reminder. We always eat dinner together, but having this conversation as a must would be a great addition. Especially as our little gets bigger and has something to tell us!

  3. Cynthia says:

    The way my fiance and I can have great small talk is one of the many things I love about our relationship. I hope as our little one grows up we can still keep it going. Very helpful post!

  4. Chellie says:

    I am very passionate about the family dinner. We do this conversation too! We call it High/Low. 🙂 Wonderful post!

  5. Adreanna says:

    Great tips for making dinnertime even more special!

  6. Ashley Tukiainen says:

    Great tips, I love how you’re specific about exactly what to say

  7. Sometimes we ask really silly questions and our kids love that. Like if you could have any superhero power, what would it be and why. We answer too, and they think it’s hilarious. So much fun!

  8. Jenn says:

    We do this, too, and on the few nights dinner is staggered because of schedules, the Hubs and I “play” it at bedtime with each child as we tuck them in.

    The bonus bit of the “worst part of your day” is that quite often they will tell you something that happened that maybe they wouldn’t offer voluntarily. It’s like they are given permission to talk about something bothering them that a “what’s wrong?” does not.

    We also love the box of questions sold by American Girl (they are not gender specific, whic is awesome).

  9. Carolin says:

    Talking is so important. People always underestimate it…

    Thanks for linking up with our Parenting Pin It Party x

  10. chellie says:

    I loved reading this a second time Holly. Thanks for linking it up to From the Archives Friday!!

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