How to Help Your Grumpy Kid
Do you have a grumpy kid? Try these two tips to get them back on the right track. No one likes a cranky child.
My son is a happy kid, but naturally argumentative and pessimistic. I love him to death; however, sometimes it really gets me down.
I tried everything to stop this behavior. I sat patiently while he complained about dinner, showering, homework, and whatever else he was doing for the day. I tried stopping him before he could say anything and pointing out when he is doing this behavior so he could identify and work on stopping it.
I spent a lot of time arguing with him about the things he would say. None of these really worked for us.
How I can help my grumpy kid to stop being grumpy.
My sister-in-law suggested that I try putting him to bed earlier. I didn’t think this would work because I thought I was putting him to bed early enough already…still, I was willing to try anything. This was very difficult to change because we have 2 other kids.
We decided it was best to adjust everyone’s bedtime so it would not look like we were just lowering his. We moved it to 7:45. This was hard to hear for a 6 year old. Of course, with his personality, he argued about this for days.
Stick with it!
The first week was tough. Moving the bed time up meant that we had to accomplish more in less time. We ate at 5:30. And I would have to sometimes start dinner an hour after they got home from school. We had to get homework in, baths, and bedtime stories before 7:45.
Once we got them to bed and tucked in they would just lay there. They could not fall asleep that early. We did buy a sound machine and that helped. This is the one we have. Sometimes they would be in bed over an hour complaining they weren’t tired. I was getting really frustrated. Slowly, they started to fall asleep earlier and earlier.
I noticed after a few weeks that not just my grumpy child was in a better mood, they all were. They were still getting up around the same time and they were getting more sleep.
I noticed that when they got home from school, they did not complain about their homework as much, they listened better and weren’t as argumentative. My sons personality will never change, but this has helped him so much! He is happier. I never thought that giving him 45 more minutes of sleep a night would mean such a change in his behavior.
Take away screens. Easier said than done, right? I have cranky kids when my kids are on screens!
I thought putting them to bed early was hard, this was much worse. Here are two of the biggest ways you can reduce screen time.
- Restrict times on video games. We have Xbox and you can create a Microsoft Family account so you can set time limits. I have this for all my kids. If they want to play more, they ask permission and it sends me an email. From there, I can add additional time or deny it.
- Don’t allow them to watch shows on a phone or iPad. We make our kids watch TV on a big TV so they aren’t focused on such a small screen. It’s hard to pull them away from the small screen.
Here are some more tips if you need ideas on getting them off the screen. It’s an article on little adjustments you can make that gets them off the screen.
Here are some activites you can do instead of screen time, if you need help finding soemthing for your kids to do.