What No One Tells You About Breastfeeding

When you’re pregnant people love to give advice, but here’s what no one tells you about breastfeeding. You’ll want to check it out.

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Breastfeeding is a main concern for new moms and it’s one of the hardest parts. There are good times and bad times, but in the end, it’s totally worth it.  People love to give advice for when the new baby comes home, but sometimes don’t share the not so good parts.  Here’s what no one tells you about breastfeeding.

When you're pregnant people love to give advice, but here's what no one tells you about breastfeeding. You'll want to check it out.

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What no one tells you about breastfeeding


  • it’s hard at first.
  • you will probably do some stuff wrong. Don’t worry about it.
  • you WILL be sore. Even if you are doing everything right, you will be sore, no matter what.
  • the baby will cry and cry because they are hungry and you can’t get them latched on properly. Don’t give up.
  • you will worry if your baby is getting enough to eat and you will probably go to the Dr. just to get a weight check to make sure.
  • you WILL cry about it.
  • everyone does things different. Find what works for you.
  • you will be upset that you’re the only one that can feed the baby and you need a break.
  • you will have to breastfeed in bathrooms, restaurants, cars, and dressing rooms.
  • everything you do revolves around your baby’s eating schedule.
  • you will spend a lot of time pumping and then accidentally spill the milk.

But then…You will

  • finally get the hang of it.
  • figure our what works for you.
  • love the bonding time with your baby.
  • be happy that it’s time for baby to eat because you can sit down and rest.
  • be better rested; although, certainly not “well rested”, since you won’t be in the kitchen making a bottle in the middle of the night.
  • feel so accomplished and proud of yourself because you stuck with it.

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39 Responses

  1. Elina says:

    At the customs line in an international airport (baby on boob in one hand, pushing luggage with the other!!)…worth every tricky/awkward/uncomfortable/tired second, knowing that my babies are healthier and happier because of it!

  2. I breastfed both of my girls and it was far from easy but definitely worth the efforts.

    I once breastfed my oldest on the floor of an auditorium… LOL. Baby’s got to eat!

    Thanks for sharing and for linking up to the #SHINEbloghop.

    Wishing you a lovely day.

  3. Jen says:

    haha great post! I have breastfed in most of those places. Strangest place for me might have been a packed airport bar. I breastfed my 4 month old in the ergo while we waited packed in like sardines for some food before our flight!

  4. My list is quite extensive (see link) but most interesting is probably either while mini-golfing or while boarding and installing car seats on an airplane but after 3 kids and almost 6 years, I have NEVER fed in a public bathroom.

  5. I was so anxious about what breastfeeding would be like before I had my daughter – it seemed so complicated! It’s been worth every second, even the awkward ones 🙂

    Last week we were having some pics taken at a local baby store, which had a very small front room and was PACKED. I fed her on the floor amidst the crowd because she started signing for milk – just when it was her turn for pics of course!

  6. I’ve nursed all eight of my children, and to be honest, it’s so second nature that no place feels weird. I’m just drawing a blank on this one.

  7. It’s the most amazing experience. I respect every mommy regardless of the do it or not for whatever reason without judging. But for me it was the best experience so far in life, exhausting, time consuming, but the BEST.

  8. I do agree about being sore. Sometimes the pain when I just start out is close to the pain during birth! You are so right though, it is worth it! Blessed times:)

  9. Serena Star Leonard says:

    I have not had a baby yet, so these things are so good to know, thanks! I am equally scared and excited about breastfeeding – now I just have to bookmark this in case I ever get pregnant!

  10. Chloe says:

    Oh my! Thanks for sharing. I’m bookmarking this 🙂

  11. Erica says:

    I totally agree! It was hard and yet I loved it! I cried when he weaned himself.

  12. Ashley Tukiainen says:

    Great points. I’m not a mom yet, but from my friends that have gone through it, breastfeeding seems a little intimidating, but it’s something I really believe in

  13. Katie says:

    Wow, I’m not anywhere near that stage, but seems like a lot of places!

  14. Janeen says:

    Those points are too true. I’m glad you counterbalanced the surprises with the joys! The weirdest place that I’ve ever breastfed probably involves the wilderness. Breastfeeding on the rocky Alaskan coast while watching the Salmon fishermen haul in their nets! Or nursing baby while sitting next to the ice-fishing hole and trying to keep us both warm 🙂

  15. Rachael says:

    One thing I appreciated about breastfeeding was that I WAS the only one who could feed my baby. Sometimes at busy functions where everyone wanted my baby, it was really good to be able to take him back and go find a quiet place for a while. 🙂

  16. I tried SO hard with my three kids. Unfortunately I just wasn’t able to continue, didn’t produce enough. It was very hard. I wish I could have done it longer..

  17. Nicola says:

    I fed my fourth in a mall in Saudi Arabia, where it is against the law to even show your wrist or ankle in public. I just popped him under my big black ‘abaya’ and no-one was the wiser!

  18. Reelika says:

    Wow, you are so right. It doesn’t just “happen” that everything will go smoothly. I had an emergency c-section, so I didn’t have the milk until the next day. It was definitely hard to breastfeed at the beginning, especially because I couldn’t really move and sit after the c-section. But you are right, finally we learn what works for us and it is great!

  19. Katrina Phelan says:

    I had to breastfeed in front of the penguin exhibit at the zoo. It was one of the only places indoors with a bench!

  20. lila says:

    Once I gave my daughter a quick feed while she was strapped into her car seat in the parking lot at Target. I knew she just needed a topper and it was easier and quicker than taking her back out, haha! 🙂

  21. Cari says:

    My last baby had a favorite side and when he was tied and wanted to nurse to sleep, he would refuse to nurse from the other.

  22. Swapna says:

    I pumped all over town! The weirdest place was in a rented jeep in front of a volcano! Beats on an airplane seat, bathrooms, backseat of a car behind a clueless driver etc etc!

  23. Jessica says:

    I love this post! Breastfeeding is so hard, and I feel like I had no idea before I had my baby! So glad we have a community of other breastfeeders who know what it’s like!

    Love this post!

  24. Samantha says:

    I’ve been breastfeeding for 7 months… And I never got sore. The “no matter what” part is a little much. Even at the very beginning I never had any pain at all!! It’s possible!

  25. Ashley Tukiainen says:

    Great post Holly! I’ll be coming around to visit it again once my breastfeeding days come around

  26. Mary says:

    One of my greatest accomplishments in life…breastfeeding my 3 kids. I’m still going with #3 (almost 1). It has been a HUGE challenge with figuring out food allergies and tongue and lip ties. But we just keep going.

    • Holly says:

      I know! I felt the same way. I couldn’t eat cucumbers for a long time and I had dozens from my garden and couldn’t eat any because it gave the baby gas!

  27. Becky says:

    Great tips that I will share with my daughters-in-law who are now in those sweet baby bearing years. Thanks, Holly!

  28. chellie says:

    So true so true!!

  29. Vanessa says:

    As an IBCLC I have helped many moms breastfeed. It is true that some moms have soreness with breastfeeding with the start of the latch. If the soreness lasts throughout the breastfeed, then there is something not right and the mama should seek professional help. There are women who can breastfeed pain free from the start! It is possible. I only share this because I want to give those who desire to breastfeed hope. Not everyone experiences pain. If there is pain that persists throughout the breastfeed, please seek help.

  30. Vanessa says:

    I breastfed my child at the airport, in the mall, and while hiking. 🙂